Monday, September 26, 2011

Grandma's Day



September 21…World call it Alzheimer’s Day! But, I call it my grand ma’s day. I don’t know the scientific reasons for that disease. In fact I love not to do research on that. Only thing I knew is, this disease attacks mainly those who never express their emotions. My grand ma always dumped her wishes and desires deep inside her heart. No one knew she was wearing a mask of happy homemaker.

God won’t have created such a fine female creature before or after. Not many will be blessed with both beauty and character. She was so fair and that made her parents to name her as Suvarnna (golden girl)…I’d never found a person who spoke badly about her. As the wife of a social worker, she supported her husband very well. She was a wonderful badminton player in her school. Her humor sense was amazing. Whenever we visit her, she used to make us yummy dishes. Her only aim in life was to serve her family and dear ones.

I was not aware that Alzheimers is such an intense illness until I saw the strange look of my grand ma. From a lady with utmost love and care, this sickness transformed her to a female blabbering ‘non-sense’. The streams of memories dried up to an extreme extend that she found her husband as a stranger and so it was hard for her to sleep with a stranger at night. However, she had a fine memory of her childhood, schooling, her house and surroundings. She could even remember her first daughter-in-law, i.e. my aunty. But, for her my youngest aunty was a servant. At times, she could memorize her grand children.

My family counted many reasons for her illness. Yet, they couldn’t find the exact reason for that. My grand pa died heavy hearted seeing my granny looking at him as a stranger. For her, that funeral was a meeting. On that day, she was complaining that she is hungry and needs something to eat.

After one year, that is three years back, she too surrendered to death. Or else, Alzheimers took her life. I couldn’t attend her funeral. It was my first day in my college. I cried a lot that day… My friends found it hard to console me. Only that day, I realized how much we value relationships. Once a single element is lost, it can’t be replaced in that chain. No one can replace my sweet muthashi… We still sob in her memories… Though she left with blank memories, she gave us lots of memoirs to cherish!

13 comments:

  1. When i reached the second para itself there were tears in my eyes.Cant finish reading without crying.Yeah her memories we will always cherish..........Hope she rest in peace ,wherever she is........Love u and miss u Mummy!!!!

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  2. Roopaa,she didnt show her emotions but doesnt mean she had an unhappy life.I dont think she was wearing any mask of a happy homemaker.

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  3. When i reached the second para itself there were tears in my eyes.Cant finish reading without crying.Yeah her memories we will always cherish..........Hope she rest in peace ,wherever she is........Love u and miss u Mummy!!!!

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  4. When i reached the second para itself there were tears in my eyes.Cant finish reading without crying.Yeah her memories we will always cherish..........Hope she rest in peace ,wherever she is........Love u and miss u Mummy!!!!

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  5. Thanks Priyechi...

    I have saved your mail that u had send to me on the day of her demise...We are really lucky to have a muthashi like that...And for those who have'nt seen her, i'm sure she will be blessing them too...After all, she always loved to see others smile :)

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  6. True that people dont understand the seriousness of a disease till it is to someone close to us. Seeing the own grandmother who had fed us, bathed us, did numerous things for us in that situation is really a pain. If you have felt this way cant even imagine how your grandfather would have felt.. Goes on.. Good post

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  7. That is so true Annasarp...My grandpa was so sad about her health condition.Truly its a deadly disease...I wish medical world could soon find out a medicine to cure this disease soon so that no other grandmas in this world suffer anymore.

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  8. Losing some one very close is really difficult. We never get satisfied even if they would live with us for few more years. But, nature takes the call of the toll.
    Getting in terms with it is a real challenge!

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  9. Exactly...We love them to be with us even if they are bed-ridden...That makes any relationship sweet too...

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  10. Heart breaking. Nothing in this world can replace our loved ones. Take care.

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  11. Thanks Aakash...you are correct! Dear ones can never ever be replaced...

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